Sep 29, 2010

Direct Deposits

Note: This is a continuation of my earlier post Love Bank

I suppose you have been busy making deposits in your Love Banks. Just one thing to keep in mind: Be careful not to deposit in the wrong accounts. Would we do it with money? NO! We double & triple check to make sure the deposits go into our specific accounts.

Similar if not more care to be taken when it comes to love banks too - especially in our marriage. As I said, our emotions are directed towards people making more deposits in our love banks. If you think a little deeper, you can comprehend where I am arriving at.

I am not saying that for each act we have to compete with someone to make sure our deposit is bigger. All I am trying to say is to be a good friend first; the best if you can.

Let's start out easy, not holding grudges, smiling more often, and being generous with compliments. Sharing with him/her on everything possible, sending in a little love note along with the lunch, making it clear to him/her that he/she is more important to us than anybody else in the world including our kids or parents... etc.

Day to day errands could easily overwhelm any marriage. It takes effort to consciously set aside time for just the two of you. How about praying together/playing together/reading together? The more time you spend together, the better for your banking; trust me, it would be automatic deposits in no time.

Our Pastor always says, "Watching a movie does not count towards spending quality time". I definitely agree with him on that as our attention is not on each other, it is on the screen. We heard in his marriage class once that it takes a minimum of six touches each day to grow stronger in marriage.

Hugging, patting, holding hands, all counts towards that. Funny part is when we remember this, we will quickly touch each other six times counting "one, two, three...& six" and claim we are covered for the day.

You get my point, there is nothing like spending time together with your spouse even if it is for some coffee... If there is real trouble brewing, I am so sorry to hear that. Hold on to the divine love; your returns will be greater!

"Enjoy life with your wife (husband), whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun— all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun." ~ Holy Bible

9 comments:

SG said...

Nice advice. Everyone should follow.

NRIGirl said...

You are right SG! Everyone - including me...

Bikramjit said...

very good advie i wish all who read this take some pointers from this article and Make a better living for each other..

Nice one

A said...

As usual good advice and practical too.

Just want to add:- Like saying Thank You to the husband when he spends one afternoon putting beautiful clock on the wall...(Sorry...could not stop myself.)

NRIGirl said...

Thank you @Bikramjit! Appreciate it much!

And @A, I burst out laughing reading your comment - sure, I should add that.

Look, what I have got into by being honest with you... Now, will you ever forgive me for that? kidding...

~ NRIGirl

dr.antony said...

The Bible also says
" There is a time for every thing under the sun. A time to love, a time to hate......"
Life is not only about love. The love that the Bible talks about, is different. That doesn't come if you touch your wife six times or six hundred times. He has given a humanly impossible task..to love your neighbor as yourself.

NRIGirl said...

Hi Doc! Nice to see you again.

Agree, there are different kinds of love, but here I insist about the love for our spouse - which is also very important as the verse above says.

Waiting for your next post soon.

~ NRIGirl

....Petty Witter said...

Sound advice indeed.

SG said...

Please read my reply to Geeta Mahesh's comment in my post. Thanks. Would like your views.

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