Jan 9, 2011

Wavering Wavelength

Have you noticed some people we will connect at once and some never. Some we just meet and it seems like we have known them for years and some we actually know for years but can't really connect?! We often call it as our frequencies or wavelength.

When the frequencies match we become friends and when it doesn't we will never be quite friends. When the frequencies are in sync we finish each others sentences, we think alike, do things similar; when not we have tough time understanding their behavior, they find it hard to understand our tendencies. When it is among friends and associates it is easy to rub off and move along. However when it is among family members it makes it difficult to even communicate. It is not something we can walk away from without hurting ourself. It becomes vital to work on it to get us in tune with one another.

I have seen some of my friends avoiding one of their parents just because they don't fit in the same frequency. It is very sad when we think about it. How long our parents will linger on? Not forever. It is our responsibility to accept them as they are, just as they've accepted us as we are. It is never too late to rekindle our love for one another. It is also possible for frequencies once matched to become otherwise or for wavelengths that were once off to become more in tune.

I know a couple who are married for fifty years of which the last 36 years were spent in isolation. Though they lived under the same roof they had no mutual interests or common friends and their lives had nothing in common other than their grown children. All because Mrs.B chose her faith while Mr. B felt comfortable where he was and didn't find it necessary to change a bit. It took 36 years and suddenly as if overnight Stan decided to join her for a Sunday service and boom he turned around almost instantaneously.

A cousin of mine didn't want anything to do with her father for many many years. Anytime I brought up the subject she will quickly put it off saying she has absolutely no feeling for him. Guess what, recently her Dad passed away and when I went over the only consolation she had was that just a few days ago she had talked to him over the phone after all those years. She was heartbroken and distraught, but just imagine how it would have been if she hadn't had that last opportunity.

Life doesn't last forever. Not everyone can be up to par with our expectations. We need to change. Change so that we can get in tune with those whose frequencies do not compare very well. Even with all the static, communication serves best and stands the test of time. Right, I need to tune too. But honestly I have consciously got in touch with many who I thought could never be friends. I have come to understand that each of those individuals have only brought the best out of me...

10 comments:

A said...

Very very true. A very good post. I try not to be in any of these categories. Life is too short.

Jyothi said...

This is so true. We should never give up on relationships. Just a phone call can make so much of a difference in someone's life. A message, a comment, a gesture is all that takes to make someone feel better. Like A said, Life is indeed to short to hold grudges. :)

Bikramjit said...

wowow very nice ..
I feel blessed sometimes for the people i have around .. and yes sometimes you just click and wavelength meets...

life is short no use wasting it over stupid things ... i try to keep in touch with as long as i can before i let go ...

dr.antony said...

Good thoughts.
I always thought the same way about this frequency part.If not,how come someone in a crowd suddenly strikes chord with us.It is almost like tuning the radio.When the frequency matches,we connect to people.
Forgeting and forgiving is part of life.Life is full of adjustments.

sm said...

thoughtful and realistic post
like the flow
excellent

Stranger said...

Excellent post Queen...you are absolutely true there.... I too have a broken relationship which I dont know how to mend...

take care..I am taking off from blogging until our exhibition gets over...

Keep in touch..

....Petty Witter said...

Hmm, at a loss for words, this has certainly given me lots to think about. My first thoughts being how right you are that we seem to connect instantly with some people and yet not with others. Being honest, I think that this is generally for a reason and our first thoughts on meeting a person are usually, though not always, right.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

I'm with Petty Witter a bit. Some people are (for some of us) not really worth the effort of making into friends. And I'm a little perplexed that it took the husband of your friend going to church to make all right. Couldn't they just have found a common point somewhere else? However, I do think that in the case of family we should always make the effort. We only get one, really.

Hari K Gottipati said...

Very true, as usual well written.

Daniel said...

very true... and i have to agree.

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